One of the greatest moments in American cinema that's been overlooked for years holds the secrets to you giving the best father of the bride speech anyone has ever heard.
The best father of bride speeches bring the families together, honor the bride and groom, and entertain with heart, humor and—most of all—originality.
That's a tall order by any measure made even more challenging by having to speak comfortably in front of hundreds of people in the most emotionally charged arena a father can find himself in—his daughter’s wedding.
There are plenty of “speechwriters” online who will happily sell you a one-size-fits-all, insert-name-here father of the bride speech filled with silly, overused lines like, “I’m not losing a daughter, I’m gaining a son!” (cue audience groan)
But if you want to make this an unforgettable speech for your daughter… if you want to actually touch and entertain people… if you want to give the best father of the bride speech they’ve ever heard and get compliments… you going to have to go deeper inside of yourself.
You're going to have to follow the lead of Spencer Tracy in the movie, “Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner.”
Tracy plays father of the bride, Matt Drayton. His 7-minute monologue at the end of the film has all the elements your father of the bride speech should include, too.
First, he’s authentic and original based on the values and character of his daughter and son-in-law through his eyes. He doesn’t fall back on any goofy clichés or empty platitudes than can be said about anyone.
This father has stepped back and gained perspective on not only his daughter’s relationship with her fiancé but his relationship with the two of them within the context of his own life.
Tracy delivers a powerful speech but, thankfully, not too serious or heavy. He balances warmth and sincerity by being self-effacing, light and knowing how to use humor.
As important, his talk is tight and easy to follow. No confusing tangents. Nothing you have to stop and think about to understand and appreciate.
He also gives the words plenty of "space." He speaks confidently and deliberately, and pauses at just the right spots to let his words resonate.
The secret to a Spencer Tracy-quality speech is first getting to the heart and character of your daughter and your relationship with her.
After organizing your thoughts, it's a matter of writing a tight, punchy speech you can comfortably and confidently deliver on wedding day. That means a speech in your distinct voice and personality.
Spencer Tracy’s speech—which was largely responsible for him winning the Academy Award for Best Actor that year—was written by William Rose, who had the talent, experience and perspective to know what to include, what to leave out and how to make it all sing.
The Spectacular Speech Plan below will do for you what William Rose did for Spencer Tracy because—make no mistake—your father of the bride speech is an even more important and meaningful performance than any you see in the movies.
"Absolutely crushed it... had compliments from everyone"
-Nick MacKenzie, Los Angeles (see full review)
THE SPECTACULAR SPEECH PLAN
Relax + Rediscover
You have a lifetime of thoughts and memories in your heart and head about your daughter. And it probably all feels like a jumbled blur in your mind right now.
I have a proprietary process to quickly and easily focus your thinking to bring out the values and character of the bride and groom and your relationship with them. This is the first step in determining what to include and what to leave out of your speech.
This process is fun, casual and takes less than an hour of your time.
Get Your Speech
I organize your thoughts, make sense of it all then write a tight, punchy, original speech in your voice and personality, which means it will easy and fun for you to deliver.
No tired, phony lines like "You're the perfect couple!" No dull, rambling stories that have audiences rolling their eyes and reaching for their drinks to fight the boredom.
This is an original speech only one person in the world can give—you.
Nail It On Wedding Day
If you're like most fathers, you don't have much, if any, speaking experience at a high profile social event like a wedding. That's okay.
You['ll get inside tips and techniques for leisurely rehearsing, reducing fear, using microphones, connecting with the audience and other important issues to ensure you nail it—even if you don't like public speaking.
Your speech should be one of the best experiences of your life.
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Perfect if you're already a comfortable and experienced public speaker...
• A funny, warm, 100% original 6- to 9-minute wedding speech written in your voice and personality. No stale jokes, tired clichés, empty praise or embarrassing lines like you see in most speeches.
• The perfect blend of humor, stories, emotion, enthusiasm and surprise plus unlimited editing to ensure every word is exactly what you want to say.
• Your speech formatted on 5" x 8" note cards that you print... or I'll work with your local FedEx Copy Center to print cards for you (they will charge you for printing, of course).
If you don't have much public speaking experience or are nervous about the big day...
• Everything in the Essential Package PLUS unlimited performance coaching to help you perfect your delivery, eliminate nervousness and ensure you’re cool, comfortable and ready to crush it on wedding day. Includes the best-kept secret in public speaking (if you're nervous, this alone will be a huge game-changer for you).
• Includes The Field Guide to Nailing Your Wedding Speech, a straightforward, 15-page book with valuable tips and strategies for rehearsing, presenting, reducing fear, using microphones and other important issues to help you rock this thing with ease and confidence.
If you want to give the perfect speech and an extraordinary gift to the bride and groom...
• Everything in the Refined Package PLUS a 7”x 7”, four-color, hardcover commemorative gift book with the full text of your speech plus up to five photographs printed on archival-quality Mohawk Proline Paper with an eggshell-textured uncoated finish.
• The book also includes a gift inscription page for you to write a short personal note that will make it a beautiful, thoughtful one-of-a-kind keepsake for the bride and groom.
• Presented in a custom black box with red looped ribbon to help lift book from box.
Book your speech early to ensure availability and avoid unnecessary stress from time pressure.
These are custom speeches, training and books. Because of the time and attention required to complete all research and writing myself, speeches are often booked weeks or months in advance.
WHAT HAPPENS NEXT? After booking you immediately receive an order confirmation then an email from me with a few questions to get started.
These are fun, warm, completely original speeches for spectacular weddings in the world's most prestigious venues.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
What information do you need to write the speech? What's the process? Why do we need to talk on the phone?
I have a tried-and-true process to gather a combination of facts, feelings and experience. I use the information to create a funny, sincere, 100% original speech that vividly illustrates the personality and character of the bride and groom through your eyes and in your voice and personality.
The speech is all you. No speech templates, canned jokes or empty clichés.
This is a fun, easy, 2-step process for you. You'll answer a few simple yet thought-provoking questions about the bride and groom. Then I'll follow up with a short call. That’s it.
You'll have a fun, original speech to honor and entertain with heart, humor and confidence. And every word will be in your voice and personality, which means it be easy and comfortable for your to deliver.
I call you because it's easier and faster for you to go deeper on topics in a short conversation than in writing. Plus, I want to get a sense of your style and personality, both of which factor heavily into your speech.
Do I really need this? It probably won't work for me anyway.
This is a highly personalized service that will ensure your speech is a huge hit. If you're struggling with what to say or are an inexperienced speaker, this is for you.
What is a speech that will strengthen your relationship with the bride and groom, and impress and entertain the crowd worth to you? You'll get laughs, tears and compliments. You'll feel great for having given the best of yourself on wedding day.
And everyone will be thrilled they didn't have to sit through yet canned, silly, clichéd speech from a wedding speaker who convinced themselves they could "just jot a few things down" or "wing it."
I've written speeches and coached hundreds of speakers at all age and experience levels for nearly 20 years. This process is customized and will work for you, too. You don't have to continue wrestling with this alone.
Giving a wedding speech is, for most of us, a once-in-a-lifetime honor. So why not make it one of the best experiences of your life?
What types of wedding speeches do you write?
All of them—from best man, groom and father/mother to maid of honor, bride and bridesmaid. Each speech is different but I use the same meticulous research process to uncover and organize your thoughts, feelings and experiences. That means a speech 100% aligned with your values, personality and relationship with the bride and groom. This is the one speech only you can deliver.
Is our work together confidential?
Yes. You're in complete control. Some clients mention our work together to others, some don't. It's up to you. Regardless, I'm always working behind the scenes to help you nail your speech.
What's your background?
After earning a B.A. in communication studies and an M.A. in journalism on scholarship, I began my career in marketing agencies creating strategy and writing ads, films, speeches, books, websites and other materials for Fortune 500 companies and global nonprofits.
CEOs and other executives at client companies would often ask me to write a speech for a wedding, anniversary, funeral, retirement, milestone birthday or other social event in their personal lives.
These execs were also typically nervous about delivering their social speeches despite being accomplished business executives. That's because wedding and other social speeches tend to push people out of their element and comfort zones.
And there is a strong emotional component to weddings where, for example, a father is speaking to his daughter or a maid of honor is honoring her big sister.
I found I particularly enjoyed the work of helping people who are under pressure, short of time or doubting their abilities nail their wedding speeches.
A little more here.
Where are you based?
I'm completely digital and work with clients everywhere. I've created speeches for speakers across the U.S., Canada, Australia, United Kingdom, Belize, U.S. Virgin Islands, Ireland and everywhere in between. My home base is on Michigan Avenue in Chicago. I'm easy to reach day and night through email or telephone. And I promptly return emails and messages.